It's true. For years I worked in fear, worried I'd be fired.
It didn't matter that I was a high performer who always got great reviews and had lots of successes in my past.
I spun and spun on decisions, squeezing my brain to consider every possible reaction, scenario or criticism.
I held back on sharing ideas because I was worried others would think they were dumb.
I relied on my boss's mood to set the tone for the day. If they seemed unhappy I had low-level stress all day wondering if it had to do with me.
That was before I learned that building confidence is a skill.
That overthinking is optional.
That there are tools to overcome overwhelm.
That I can feel good about myself even if my boss is upset or I make a mistake.
Overthinking and second-guessing yourself are attempts to create a perfect world where no one ever criticizes or disagrees with you.
Where you never make a mistake or feel rejected.
The solution is not to turn yourself inside out trying to do the impossible.
It's building the strength and resilience to be okay with taking a few chances.
Up until now, you've been trying to be superhuman (aka "perfect").
You have an amazing problem-solving brain. Put it to use to make your life better, more peaceful and more satisfying.
Leaders lead themselves first.
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